I am already not a fan of Mondays but Mondays and a doctors appointment to boot is more than anyone should have to bare! Well it has been just over two weeks since my mom had her fall so today was a check up with her doctor. What an interesting adventure it was.
Her appointment was at 2:30 pm but we had to start leaving the house around 1:10 pm.
It took right about 25-30 minutes to get her out to the car and seated properly (now mind you the car was about a 25-30 foot shuffle from inside the house to the garage). That puts us at about 1:35-1:40 pm. We leave the house to go 15 minutes down the road and about 5 minutes out we had to turn back around and come home, mom had not washed her hands very well after using the restroom. So after that incident we are back on the road at 2:00 pm and got to the doctors office at 2:18 pm.
During the appointment the doctor asked the usual questions: How are you sleeping? Are you taking your medicine? How are you feeling since your fall? Any pain in your legs, hips or back? Mom just gave him a blank stare and then wanted to know when dad was coming to pick her up (please note my dad passed away about 9 years ago so it would be quite a feat for him to come pick her up). After mom's little chat about dad, the doctor, my sister, my daughter and I had a very detailed conversation about mom's well being.
You see mom's decline has hit at a rapid pace lately. We explained to him that she is completely out of touch with what is going on in the so called real world. She lives in her own little fantasy land. Daily and numerous times during the day she tries to find her parents always concerned she is going to get in trouble with her father for not checking in. Now her father passed away over 47 years ago so I am pretty sure he is not upset that she hasn't checked in. We also let him know that now matter how hard we try she won't eat which is a huge concern and that she is not drinking enough water. She has now become incontinent. Her facial features have changed as well with what was once a full face it is now all sunken in, eyes very shallow. skin extremely dry and no color in her cheeks. She doesn't even look like my mom anymore.
The doctor's decision for us today was that mom needs full time assisted care. I was not surprised by that at all, I am just trying to figure out how to pay for it all. You see mom only has her Social Security which doesn't cover the cost of care and her insurance doesn't cover it either. Wow, what a mess. Like many of us out there my family lives pay check to pay check and there is no "extra" left over. I can't figure out or understand why the insurance that we pay for (yes, I pay for an extra supplemental insurance for her to give her better coverage), for her doesn't cover this. It is a medical problem for crying out loud. Oh well, all we can do at this point is pray we find the right place that can accommodate the situation.
Needless to say it was a tough day today but I know in my heart of hearts some way some how this is all going to work out for the good and I know that it will in the end glorify God.
Again and as always thanks for listening and have a wonderful evening!
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